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籌備報讀小一時的四大部署

資料來源：資深親職教育專家Bally

其實升小一真的要比較緊張和多花一點時間準備。問我的話我會建議PN開始就應該要「先分析，後部署」。但如何先分析呢？

其實很多家長都不太清楚香港有幾多種類型的學校，例如原來我們有傳統的政府派位學校、直資學校、私立學校和國際學校，究竟這幾種學校的分別是甚麼？他們的教學理念是甚麼？其實家長的經濟環境或他們期望的理想是入讀哪一類學校？

他們要先了解和分析，就會有一個目標。有了一個目標後，我們會進入下一步，真真正正地親自聽每一間學校的理念。為甚麼我們覺得PN開始就要準備呢？因為原來學校很多時候每年只會進行一次簡介會。這些簡介會很多時候會在同一時間舉行，如果我們在K2那年才去聽，但我們心儀有三間學校，都撞正在同一個星期六同一個時段舉行，家長就已經聽不到。

第二就是原來這些簡介會，會有很多人報名，但只有數百至一千個名額。而他們只是進行一天，那一天內原來有五千多人報名。當有五千多人報名時，可能你會抽不到，就沒有機會去聽，所以我們要準備前一至三年的時間，考慮學校的理念是否合適自己的小朋友。

如果我們已經在頭一兩年都聽得七七八八，聽過了自己心儀學校的簡介會。到了最後一年，我們就要找回自己最理想的一至三間再聽多次，因為近年香港的教學改變得很快，而且也很多。如果我們再聽多次，便有助肯定自己心儀的學校。

很多時候第一次去聽的可能是媽媽，第二次去聽的是爸爸，我們的家庭一定要一致，所以大家去聽理念是很重要的。如果大家都有機會理解到，就要進入第三個部署，家裡人坐下來商量究竟我們想小朋友未來擁有教育的方向是怎樣？

我們究竟想要很傳統的教學方法？還是想要很開心？現在有些學校叫Happy School，亦有很多家長以為Happy School，就等於可能未必有成效。

其實現在有兩大類的Happy School，有些Happy School只有開心，但到時候是追不到小一進度，有些Happy School開心之餘有成效，到時他有足夠的能力可以挑選自己心儀的學校。因為他入讀到心儀的學校還能追得上，所以家長要了解甚麼叫Happy School，他們的教學理念和成效如何。

當父母達成共識時，我們就要開始真真正正地，挑選一間最適合小朋友的學校。有很多時候父母會選擇最好的學校給小朋友，因為那間是最好的，但其實最好未必是最適合。我們身為父母其實要找一間最適合小朋友的學校，舉一個例子如果小朋友很好動，家長很多時候會覺得我是否要找一間比較傳統的，綁緊他，希望他坐定一點。如果他像「甩繩馬騮」是不行的。又或有些小朋友的英文不太好，我是否應該找一間英文小學給他讀呢？或是否應該找國際學校給他讀呢？

其實大家可以想想如果當那間學校由小一開始，他的學習能力根本未到達學校的主要要求，小朋友根本就不會想上學。如果一個小朋友不擅長英文，擅長中文，而他選了一間英文小學，小朋友根本聽不懂老師說甚麼，他對英文完全沒有興趣。即是我們叫那個小朋友根本不需要來上課，因為他不會學習到老師說的東西，英文一科可以拖垮整個學業及他整個學習興趣。

家長會問如何為之正確？我們用一個大塘小魚或小塘大魚來分析，如果我們讓一個小朋友讀一間學校，他在學習能力和成績方面都是在這間學校的中上等級。小朋友在整個學習過程中自信心會提升，他不會被比下去。但如果讀一間我們認為很好的學校或是名校，但小朋友的能力根本讀不了，可能會墊底，就會變成大塘的小魚。小朋友在學習過程中，往往都會很不開心，可能被人看輕。

以我會建議家長首先如何選一間合適的學校，你要先理解學校的理念，看看學校小一後的程度，你的小朋友在這方面是否合適。在英文、中文、數學方面，是否有足夠能力掌握。如果你覺得都可以的，小朋友現在就正在做這樣事情，他完全應付得到這間就是合適你的學校。

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為人父母壓力大 焦慮要及時處理

作為父母，既要面對工作，亦要照顧家庭。在巨大的壓力下，很容易出現焦慮。焦慮是與生俱來的正常反應，當我們生命受到威脅時，適當的焦慮可以保障我們人身安全。不過如果過度擔心，身體可能會出現一些不適的反應，例如心跳加速、胃痛、肌肉繃緊、呼吸急速、頭痛、手震、出汗或經常上廁所等。如果沒有及時處理，可以引致更嚴重的情緒問題，亦會影響家庭關係。

以下有三種方法可以減少焦慮症狀，首先是呼吸放鬆練習，使用腹式呼吸。用鼻慢慢地吸氣，持續4秒，腹部要漲起，維持2秒，再用嘴慢慢地呼氣，持續4秒，然後暫停2秒後，重複整個過程5至10次。

第二是肌肉放鬆練習，在一個舒服的地方坐下或躺下，輕輕地閉起雙眼，全身肌肉放鬆，先把注意力轉移到雙腳，收緊腳部肌肉10秒，然後放鬆。然後按順序逐一收緊，放鬆身驅、雙手、頸部和面部肌肉。

最後是影像放鬆練習。在一個安靜的地方閉起雙眼，然後想像一個舒適的場，想像看到、聽到、聞到、觸摸到的感覺，探索5至10分鐘。然後再逐漸回到現實世界。

另外，平時亦應該培養正面的思考模式。任何時候都嘗試看看好的一面，而非整天想著不開心的事情，可以令患上情緒病的機會減少。

資料來源：精神科專科醫生黃俊賢

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Everyday life is full of eye use. Adults and children do eye exercises together.

Many children today spend a lot of time looking at computers, phones, or reading, which can strain their eyes. There are some acupoint massages that can help children relieve eye strain.

The first acupoint we’ll introduce is the “Zan Chuk” point. It’s located at the very front end of the eyebrows, about half an inch downward, at the corner of the eye socket. Another acupoint is called the “Jing Ming” point. It’s located at the side of the nasal bridge, right in the middle between the two eyes, near the inner edge of each eye. The third point is the “Si Pak” point, which is about 1 inch below the eyes, roughly the width of two fingers apart. It’s in front of the cheekbone, and when you touch it, there should be a slight depression just below the eyes; this is the “Si Pak” point. The last acupoint is the “Shi Chuk Hung” point, located at the very end of the eyebrow. All four of these points can help with dispersing wind, clearing heat, and improving vision.

Once we know the locations of these acupoints, how do we massage the eye area?

First, let’s start with the first point, the “Zan Chuk” point. You’ll use your four fingers to hold down the eyebrows, and then use your thumb to press on the “Zan Chuk” point. The “Zan Chuk” point is right at the very front end of the eyebrows, in the depression at the corner of the eye socket. Hold it with your four fingers and your thumb, and gently rotate 64 times in opposite directions.

The second acupoint is called “Jing Ming” Point, located in the area in front of the inner corner of the eye, between the eyebrow and the bridge of the nose. We use two fingers to gently pinch the bridge of the nose and then slowly massage it up and down, repeating this motion 64 times.

The third acupoint is called “Si Pak” Point. It is located on the inner edge of the cheekbone on our face. In fact, when you touch it, you’ll feel a slight depression. Using two fingers, place them on either side of the bridge of the nose, and you will be able to locate this point. Gently press inside, and you will feel a slight soreness. After locating it, you can also rotate the pressure 64 times. 

The fourth acupoint is Shi Chuk Hung Point. To locate it, use your thumbs to first press on both sides of the temples. Then, starting from the Shi Chuk Hung Point, sweep upward to the Shi Chuk Hung Point again, and then continue downward, below the eyes, to the Shi Chuk Hung Point. This constitutes one cycle, and repeat this motion 64 times.

By massaging these four acupoints, you can not only relieve eye fatigue but also improve the blood circulation around the eyes and prevent eye conditions such as nearsightedness. When we do eye exercises, remember to keep our eyes closed throughout the entire process. After completing the eye exercises, it’s also important to keep your eyes closed for 2 to 5 minutes. We typically press each acupoint for 64 times. Why 64 times? It’s because, from the perspective of Traditional Chinese Medicine “eighty-eight sixty-four“, we call it the “first of eight eights” meaning the most important.

Source : Chinese Medicine Practitioner, Chiu Shi Cheung

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日常生活用眼多 大人小朋友同做眼睛操

現在的小朋友很多時候都會看電腦、電話或讀書也十分用神，這樣會很傷害眼睛，有一些穴位按摩能幫助小朋友舒緩眼睛。

第一個介紹的穴位是攢竹穴，在兩條眼眉的最前端，向下大約半吋的位置，大約是眼眶最角的位置。另一個穴位就叫睛明穴，在兩隻眼睛中間鼻樑位置的旁邊，就是兩隻眼的前端。第三個穴位是四白穴，在眼下面大約1吋左右，大約是兩隻手指位隔著的地方。它就在顴骨位前邊，我們摸的時候，在眼下的地方會有少許凹陷，這個就是四白穴。最後一個穴位是絲竹空穴位，在眼眉最端的位置。這四個穴位都可以幫助得到疏風清熱和明目。

我們知道穴位位置後，要怎樣按摩眼部呢？

首先第一個穴位，我們就會用攢竹穴。我們就會用四隻手指按住眼眉，然後用姆指按住攢竹穴。攢竹穴就在眼眉最前端的位置，然後在眼眶角的凹陷處。我們按住他，兩隻手指，互相正反方向轉64下。

第二個穴位就是睛明穴，在眼頭前面這個位置和鼻樑之間。我們將兩隻手指輕輕捏著鼻樑，然後我們可以向下向上地慢慢按摩，同樣做64下。

第三個穴位是四白穴，在我們臉上顴骨內邊的這個平面，其實實際觸摸內裡面其實是一個凹陷位。我們用兩隻手指隔著鼻樑，便可以摸到這個穴位，輕輕按裡面，你會感覺到酸軟。按著之後，亦都可以轉64下。

第四個穴位便是絲竹空穴，我們可用兩隻姆指先按住兩邊的太陽穴，然後我們由攢竹穴開始，從上邊掃至絲竹空穴，然後再跟著在攢竹穴下邊、眼的下邊，掃至絲竹空穴，這樣為之1次，同樣做64下。

這樣按摩了這四個穴位後，可以消除眼睛疲勞外，還可以幫助眼睛的血氣循環，可以預防近視等眼疾。當我們做眼睛操時，記得是全程閉起雙眼，然後做完眼睛操後，還要閉起雙眼休息2至5分鐘。每一個穴位我們是大約按64下，為何要按64下？因為在中醫角度八八六十四，我們稱為是八八之首。

資料來源：趙仕祥中醫師

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The “small gestures” of education make children soar in the ideal sky

Some people say that the diploma a child will earn in the future is at least a capital that will allow them to establish themselves in society, ensuring they do not face the increasingly competitive life ahead with empty hands. Some say that a child’s good manners and graceful behavior serve as the family’s advertisement, even if they don’t possess extraordinary abilities, at least it guarantees that they won’t go astray. There are also those who say that they have too many regrets in their own lives, that their dreams have always been washed away by the harsh realities, and with better living conditions now, they will never let tragedy repeat itself in their children, wanting to mold them into the image they desire. 

However, when young people carried their university diplomas and stumbled on the path of job-seeking, when the media occasionally reported on the distortion of human nature due to trivial reasons, when children could not become the ideal image in the eyes of their parents, and the parents were frustrated by their inadequacies… Is education merely about achieving superior living conditions? 

How to nurture a child’s talent lies in paying attention to the small details of everyday life. 

 

The aspiration for one’s child to succeed is a common goal for every parent, but how to cultivate a child’s talent has become a headache for parents. In this age of technological advancement, education has become increasingly complex. Parents often find themselves at a loss due to their children’s series of “unthinkable” actions, feeling anxious in a cycle where intervening is wrong, and not intervening is also wrong.

In fact, only by walking one’s own path can one find the goals they’ve set for themselves. Education can be achieved in some “small gestures” in everyday life, and qualities can be cultivated in the details.

Sometimes, the key to success or failure is not in the environment but in the details of the process. Some “small gestures” in education, such as eye contact, actions, and attitudes, these often overlooked details by parents, are the most exquisite tools for shaping a child’s talent. Through careful refinement in various aspects like intelligence, financial literacy, resilience, emotional intelligence, moral values, and aesthetics, give your children wings so they can soar in the ideal sky!

There are no rigid theoretical knowledge or lengthy sermons, only subtle processes of imparting. Giving someone a fish can only satisfy their hunger for a moment but teaching them how to fish can sustain them for a lifetime. Quality education provides children with the means to fish, rather than just providing them with the food to survive. These methods to address fundamental issues are hidden in the everyday words and actions of parents, which had often gone unnoticed until now.

 

The development of character is a gradual and sequential process; it cannot be rushed or achieved in a single step. The process of building good character is essentially a series of frames fixed in a child’s memory, one after another. When a child is about to host a birthday party, they may suddenly recall an image of their mother saving coins, prompting them to consciously withdraw their bank card from the ATM. On the contrary, if a vivid image of their father gambling recklessly during a mahjong game takes precedence, any well-intentioned lectures will become feeble and ineffective.

 

The key is how to imprint the details of character in a child’s mind and then influence their behavior when they need guidance. It’s this internal, automatic awareness that comes from the child’s heart, which is the essence of education.

Written by: Johnny Kwan, Curriculum Director of the International Gifted and Talented Development Education Institute

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教育的「小動作」 讓孩子在理想的天空飛翔

有人說，孩子將來的那一紙文憑，最少能讓他們擁有在社會上立足的資本，不會赤手空拳地面對未來競爭愈來愈激烈的生活；有人說，孩子良好的修養、優雅的舉止，是整個家庭的廣告，即使沒有甚麼過人的本事，至少保證他們不要走上歧途；也有人說，自己一生中有太多的遺憾，夢想總被現實雨打風吹去，現在生活條件變得更優越了，絕不讓悲劇重複發生在孩子身上，要把他們塑造成自己期望的樣子。

然而，當年輕人懷揣大學畢業證書、蹣跚於求職之路時；當媒體時而報道「因嫌紗帽小，致使枷鎖抗」的人性扭曲的時候；當孩子不能成為家長理想的樣子，家長卻恨鐵不成鋼的時候……衡量質素的刻度，難道教育僅僅是實現優越的生存條件？

如何培育孩子成才　留意日常生活的小細節

望子成龍是每一個家長共同的目標，但怎樣把孩子培養成才，卻成了家長頭疼的難題。在現時科技進步的年代，教育卻變得愈來愈複雜。家長總被孩子一連串的「不可思議」搞得手足無措，在管也不對、不管也不對的循環中感到焦慮。

其實，只有親自走自己的路，才能找到自己設定的目標。教育可以在日常生活中的一些「小動作」裡完成，素質也可以在細節中培養。

有時候，成敗的關鍵不在環境，而在過程中的細節。一些教育的「小動作」，或是眼神、動作和態度，這些常常被家長忽略的細節，是一套塑造孩子成才最精緻的工具。從局部精雕細琢，在智商、財商、逆商、情商、德商、美商等多方面，為你的孩子插上翅膀，讓他們在理想的天空裡飛翔！

沒有刻板的理論知識，也沒有長篇大論的說教，只有細微的灌輸過程。授人以魚，只能解一時之饑，授人以漁，才能成為一世之本。素質教育就是交給孩子漁獵的方法，而不是僅僅給他們維持生命的糧食。這些解決本質問題的方法，就潛藏在家長平時的一言一行當中，只不過在此之前，很少有人注意到的。

品格的養成是一個循序漸進的過程，不能揠苗助長、一蹴而就，養成良好品格的過程，其實就是一個接一個定格在孩子記憶中的畫面組成的。當孩子要大擺生日宴會的時候，也許頭腦中會突然閃現母親儲存硬幣的畫面，從而讓他自覺地將銀行卡從提款機裡抽出；但也可能完全相反，如果被父親打麻將時一擲千金的畫面替代，任何苦口婆心的說教都會變得蒼白無力。

如何把素質的細節定格在孩子的腦海裡，然後在他們需要指導的時候，左右他們的行為。這是發自孩子心底的自動自覺，才是教育的精髓。

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